I spent a lot of years (most of college and into my 20’s) feeling pretty stuck.
It might not have been obvious from the outside, but I was living in a daily fog of indecision, lack of direction and almost perpetual stress.
Was it my circumstances? Some of it, yeah.
But looking back, the majority of it was boiled down to an internal problem that influenced my response to every circumstance I went through, good or bad.
Because of fear, I wasn’t being honest about what I wanted out of life, about what makes me come alive. Out of fear, I often let other people determine my priorities, my time, my emotions. It even shaped how I thought about myself.
Do you know what happens when you live like that?
You make absolutely no progress. You finish nothing, and over time you start even less. You have no clear plan or direction for your life, because you by default allow others to set your plans.
And if you’re trying to please everyone, you please no one (including yourself) – and you get burnt out in the process. Yuck.
So, that’s true in life. Maybe you’ve experienced something similar.
But, I think we do this in our businesses, too.
When we don’t have a clear, committed understanding of who we are, what our direction is and what our values are, we start back at square one every. single. day.
Our Mondays are painful, because we don't know what the heck we’re doing.
An unhappy client becomes an internal crisis.
The pain we’re going through is not primarily the circumstance. It’s that we don’t know if it’s all going to be worth it, because we aren’t clear on our direction or the end goal.
You can only set successful goals for your business after you do the work to get real honest about who you are, who you serve, and how you serve them.
My “stuck years” stemmed from not having a clear sense of my own identity and value, and it kept me from true growth for many years. I had to center myself on truth and making a plan to move forward.
Value your business enough to sit down and figure this stuff out. It’s the foundation on which you will grow your future, so it’s not a back burner project – it’s a high priority ✴️
(Originally published November 30, 2018).